I’m sure it’s pregnancy, but I’ve been feeling really blessed by some of the women in my life and just so grateful lately.
I’ve always been a girls’ girl. I know some women do better with guys, but I’m not one of them. I have guy friends, but female friendships give me energy, joy, contentment and more. And since becoming a mama, I rely on my female friends even more. Today I’m writing a little ode to my most important female friendships. Acknowledging these friendships makes me want to be a better friend to everyone. True friendships are not ones that include judgment, jealousy, grudges. They are the ones that forgive, give the benefit of the doubt, assume positive intent, try to stay in touch even when life gets in the way… Cheers to wonderful female friendships!
To the friend who shared maternity leave with me nearly three years ago and saw me in some of my most joy-filled moments and my darkest. I will ALWAYS have a soft spot in my heart for you. You will always be someone I feel comfortable going to on hard days and someone I trust beyond words. Those months of new mom friendship created something remarkable and something I’m so grateful for. We may not see each other as often as we’d like, but your friendship gives me so much strength.
To the friend who is just always there, the friend who drops off flowers on my porch on my birthday with your two boys in tow (no small feat), texts me offering to make dessert for my son’s birthday on a day when I am feeling SO overwhelmed. I hope I can give you an ounce of the generosity you’ve given me. Thank you.
To several women who live in my neighborhood who went from being acquaintances to true friends in just a year or two. I can’t believe the bond we’ve formed and how comfortable I am confiding in you. Distance may make the heart grow fonder, but this lack of distance certainly makes our friendships SO easy and wonderful. I’m thankful my children get to grow up with your children and we get to drink wine together in our backyards while the kids run free on the soccer field or at the park. OK, that sounds irresponsible if you don’t know how tight our neighborhood is and don’t understand that we can see the park out some of my neighbors back windows. :) You and your families make daily life so good. And back when I was a suburb-hater/judger, I would never have guessed the type of women who would someday be my neighbor in a suburb. That woman back then was wrong. This is the good life. :)
To the cousin who is and always will be my best friend and sister. Living in the same city once again has added so much joy and comfort to my life. My son is lucky to call you his aunty and I am lucky to see you so much more. It’s not the three blocks between us that we had in our small hometown, but it’s manageable and I hope we get to be this close forever. You are good for my soul and I hope I will always give your soul peace and joy too.
To the woman who has somehow become one of my best friends and greatest confidants without ever meeting in person. Our daily (usually multiple times daily) conversations add so much to my life. You are a kind soul. You are humble and honest. You are the person I go to even at my weakest. You hear things that no other person but my husband knows and you don’t judge. You work through struggles with me and celebrate accomplishments with me. All of this with many miles between us while you are dealing with one of the biggest challenges of your entire life. I can only strive to be the kind of friend you’ve been to me. Thank you!
To my friend since forever ago who moved far away, this friendship that is effortless yet constant. Someday you will move back and things will be even better, but even with all of this distance, our friendship is as strong as any other. Let’s be honest though, I can’t wait until you get back here and we can craft, reupholster and think up crazy home decorating schemes and spend hours working on them. Nothing better. But for now, we’ll have to settle for twice-annual visits and a few ladies trips together. Friends for life.
And to all of my mama friends! Is there anything better than watching our children play together? I can’t think of anything. Even during those really wild, obnoxious nights, I love that I get to spend time with you while our children learn to share, to play nicely, to apologize after hurting each other etc… Being a mom is so much better because of you.
There are other women who are wonderful in my life too. I feel so much more confident as I get closer to having our second baby, knowing that I have the support and friendships of the women I have in my life right now. I am surrounded by really great people.
And these great people make me want to be an incredible friend. I’m working hard to be the kind of friend that can help lighten the load once in a while for the women in my life. It takes work, but it’s worth it.
Does pregnancy make you all emotional and lovey dovey too? I’m feeling it today. :)
Happy Friday! I’ll be back to regular posts soon.
p.s. Now I need a happy hour with my ladies!